One of the toughest tests of your leadership isn't how you handle success. It's how you navigate disagreement. I noticed this in the SEAL Teams and in my work with executives: Those who master difficult conversations outperform their peers not just in team satisfaction, but in decision quality and innovation. The problem? Most of us enter difficult conversations with our nervous system already in a threat state. Our brain literally can't access its best thinking when flooded with stress hormones. Through years of working with high-performing teams, I've developed what I call The Mindful Disagreement Framework. Here's how it works: 1. Pause Before Engaging (10 seconds) When triggered by disagreement, take a deliberate breath. This small reset activates your prefrontal cortex instead of your reactive limbic system. Your brain physically needs this transition to think clearly. 2. Set Psychological Safety (30 seconds) Start with: "I appreciate your perspective and want to understand it better. I also have some different thoughts to share." This simple opener signals respect while creating space for different viewpoints. 3. Lead with Curiosity, Not Certainty (2 minutes) Ask at least three questions before stating your position. This practice significantly increases the quality of solutions because it broadens your understanding before narrowing toward decisions. 4. Name the Shared Purpose (1 minute) "We both want [shared goal]. We're just seeing different paths to get there." This reminds everyone you're on the same team, even with different perspectives. 5. Separate Impact from Intent (30 seconds) "When X happened, I felt Y, because Z. I know that wasn't your intention." This formula transforms accusations into observations. Last month, I used this exact framework in a disagreement. The conversation that could have damaged our relationship instead strengthened it. Not because we ended up agreeing, but because we disagreed respectfully. (It may or may not have been with my kid!) The most valuable disagreements often feel uncomfortable. The goal isn't comfort. It's growth. What difficult conversation are you avoiding right now? Try this framework tomorrow and watch what happens to your leadership influence. ___ Follow me, Jon Macaskill for more leadership focused content. And feel free to repost if someone in your life needs to hear this. 📩 Subscribe to my newsletter here → https://lnkd.in/g9ZFxDJG You'll get FREE access to my 21-Day Mindfulness & Meditation Course packed with real, actionable strategies to lead with clarity, resilience, and purpose.
Leading With Empathy
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I managed teams for 10 years before I learned this important truth: Empathy isn't a "soft skill." It's your most powerful leadership tool. I once had a top performer who was missing deadlines. Instead of asking "Why isn't this done?" I asked "How can I support you?" Turns out, she was dealing with family health issues but was afraid to speak up. That one conversation changed everything. 8 ways I learned to show empathy at work: — Listen without jumping to fix things — Be flexible when life throws curveballs — Make time for non-work conversations — Give praise in public, feedback in private — Create space where no question feels stupid — Support mental health days, not just sick days — Ask how you can help, not why things aren't done — Treat your team like people first, employees second When you lead with empathy, productivity and loyalty naturally follow. You don't have to choose between being human and being successful. The most effective leaders are both. Because at the end of the day, people don't leave bad jobs. They leave environments where they don't feel understood or appreciated. Want to transform your team? Start with empathy. It's the investment that pays the highest returns. ♻️ Agree? Repost to spread the message. Thanks! 📌 Follow Justin Wright for more on emotional intelligence. Want my 99 best cheat sheets? Get them free: BrillianceBrief.com
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Last month, while facilitating a session inside of a leadership development program, a complex topic came up: How do you lead change when you didn’t make the decision (and maybe don’t agree with it?) What do you do when you're expected to rally your team around a decision, new policy, new process etc. when you may not have made (or even agree with) all while feeling empathy for those impacted. It's a tough nuanced situation, no easy answers. But here were a few key insights and ideas that emerged from our discussion: - Check yourself first before leading others: Since people model and watch what leaders say and do, before showing up for others make sure to check in with yourself. Do your own self-awareness and reflection work internally so you can process the change and be itentional about how you show up, communicate and act with your people - Empathy/Clarity aren't mutually exclusive: For particuarily charged or controversial changes to policies/programs that are truly beyond your control, you're still responsible for making sure those things are carried out/results delivered. At the same time, you can acknowledge the pressure/challenges that these changes create. Diverse perspectives matter, and as a leader, you can hold space for empathy, while also reinforicing accountability to exepctations. It's not about choosing one or the other, but about navigating both with intention. - Help Your people find their agency: Few things are more disempowering than feeling like you have no voice or control. Engage your team in ways that invite agency and ownership. When people can shape and have a voice in how they have to respond to change, they can feel more invested in making sure that they're committed to seeing it out, versus feeling it was imposed on them - Listen/Respond/Share: It's unrealistic to expect everyone to agree happily with every big change. What matters is creating that forum for people to express their perspective in an honest but healthy way. Listen with curioisty, use your role as a leader to share feedback through the right channels and follow up so your team feels heard and valued. I don’t think there are silver bullets or playbooks, but I think we came up with some great ideas and thought starters. If you’re a leader who’s had to navigate this, I’d love to hear what’s worked for you! #leadership #change
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Ever thought empathy didn't belong in a high-pressure work environment? I did too, until I saw it in action. During a major project deadline, I watched a leader pause to address a team member's struggle. It wasn't scheduled. It wasn't about metrics. But it transformed everything. That moment taught me that empathy drives success in ways data can't capture. ___ Here’s why empathetic leadership matters: ↳ It builds deeper connections. Your team isn't just a group of employees; they're individuals with unique stories. ↳ It creates a culture of respect. When people feel understood, they contribute more meaningfully. ↳ It drives loyalty. Empathy makes people feel valued, and valued people stay. 🔸 So, next time you're in a meeting, take a moment to look beyond the agenda. 🔸 Ask about your team's well-being. Listen to their challenges. Offer your support. 🔸 Because sometimes, the most powerful thing you can do as a leader is simply to care. Action Steps: 1. Check-in regularly. Make it a habit to ask your team how they're really doing. 2. Listen actively. Pay attention to what your team members say, and what they don't say. 3. Show genuine concern. Offer support and solutions that go beyond work-related issues. Have you experienced the power of empathy in your organization? 👇 ___ ♻️ Found this valuable? Repost if this resonates with you. 👋 Follow me Hetali Mehta, for more content like this.
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One of the toughest moments you'll encounter as a leader is when your team is struggling, and you’re too busy to notice. Maybe your team has been working around the clock to meet a deadline. As the deadline approaches, the quality of work starts to slip, and tensions rise. But instead of jumping in to reprimand or simply push harder, you take a step back and ask: "I know we’ve been working hard, and I can feel the stress and pressure building. I want to understand how each of you is really feeling right now, beyond just meeting deadlines. What’s been weighing on you, and how can I help support you?" That’s radical empathy. And I think it’s the key for leaders looking to build and scale highly productive teams. It’s the kind of leadership that goes beyond metrics and deadlines. Radical empathy is about deeply connecting with your team in a way that acknowledges their struggles and humanizes their experience. It’s a commitment to listening, understanding, and acting in a way that prioritizes the person’s emotional and psychological well-being.
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Empathy is the Heart of Leadership In sound organizations, leaders are measured by results—profit margins, performance metrics, and organizational achievements. But behind every one of those numbers is a person, a story, and a need to be understood. That’s why I believe empathy is not just a skill but the foundation of effective leadership. I remember a time when a team member was struggling both professionally and personally. Their performance had slipped, and it would’ve been easy to focus solely on the results. Instead, I chose to meet with them—not to point out what wasn’t working but to ask, “How are you?” That simple question led to an honest conversation where I learned about challenges they were facing outside of work. I partnered with their HR Director, and together we developed a plan to provide the support they needed. Over time, they not only rebounded but became one of the strongest performers on the team. Empathy doesn’t mean avoiding accountability; it means understanding the whole picture so we can guide people effectively. It’s about leading with humanity, recognizing struggles, and working together toward solutions. The most successful teams thrive when leaders create an environment of trust and care. Empathy fuels connection, drives collaboration, and ultimately leads to results that are not just good for business but good for people too. As we navigate challenges in our organizations and industries, let’s remember that leading with empathy is not a soft skill—it’s a strategic advantage. #Leadership #Empathy #Inclusion #ServantLeadership #Teamwork #Hospitality
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🔥 How to Handle a Difficult Conversation as a Leader 🔥 Difficult conversations are one of the toughest parts of leadership but also one of the most important. The key isn’t just delivering bad news and walking away, but staying engaged, even when it’s uncomfortable. I recently wrote about this in my Harvard Business Review article, “How to Talk to an Employee Who Isn’t Meeting Expectations,” where I shared strategies to turn these moments into opportunities for growth. As an executive coach and advisor, I work with leaders navigating these conversations every day. Here are four things to keep in mind to make the discussion more productive: 👉 Set the stage for collaboration Approach it as a partnership. Start with alignment: “My goal is to provide clear feedback and ensure we are collectively working toward your development.” 👉 Encourage self-reflection Invite them to assess their own performance. “Looking back, what’s working well? What would you improve?” This helps shift the mindset from blame to growth. 👉 Deliver feedback with clarity Be specific and avoid ambiguity. Focus on observed behaviors, not assumptions. Instead of “You’re not engaged,” say: “I’ve noticed you’re quieter in meetings, and team members think you are disconnected.” 👉 Reset expectations and look ahead Frame the conversation around the future. Instead of focusing on what went wrong, ask: “How would you handle this situation differently next time?” Difficult conversations don’t have to feel like confrontations. When approached with preparation, empathy, and a focus on growth, they can be transformative strengthening both performance and trust. Please share in the comments, what strategies have helped you navigate tough conversations? ⬇️ 📖 Read my full HBR article here: https://lnkd.in/eMuV9eWp #Leadership #Coaching #Feedback #FutureOfWork #GrowthMindset #Careers #Thinkers50 #Coach #Professor #Advisor #MG100 #BestAdvice #JennyFernandez
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I was a terrible manager when I first started. I thought leadership was all about doing the work and leading by example. Spoiler: it’s not. Here’s what I’ve learned about becoming the kind of leader your team actually wants to follow (instead of silently resenting): 1. Promote Work-Life Balance I used to think being "the hardest worker in the room" would inspire my team. Instead, it burned them—and me—out. Now, I encourage my team to take breaks, set boundaries, and prioritize their health. If your team is running on empty, so is your leadership. 2. Provide Clear Expectations Early on, I left my team to “figure it out”—thinking autonomy was empowering. But without clear goals, people become uncertain, frustrated, and stressed. Everyone needs to know how to play—and win—their game. 3. Offer Real Support No one wants a "boss." I learned that real leadership means being approachable. Your team won’t thrive if they’re afraid to come to you. 4. Recognize and Appreciate Fair pay isn't a substitute for being present. Recognition fuels motivation. Celebrate your team! 5. Encourage Open Communication In my early days, I didn’t listen enough. I talked at my team, not with them. Now, I create space for open dialogue, where no one fears judgment. I’ve learned that the best leaders listen first, act second. Afterall, telling isn't teaching. 6. Invest in Their Growth Skills compound. Don't underestimate the power of development. I never skip a coaching opportunity—when your people grow, your team levels up. 7. Promote Collaboration Build a culture that rewards teamwork and joint mission wins. Avoid structure that perpetuates scarcity thinking. An aligned team is greater than the sum of its parts. 8. Lead with Empathy At the start, I made decisions without fully considering my team's individual needs—I was too binary. That changed when I saw the impact of leading with empathy. Now, I take time to understand each person’s challenges and strengths because compassion breeds loyalty. 9. Create a Positive Work Environment I thought culture would take care of itself. But culture is shaped by every choice you make as a leader. I learned to focus on building an inclusive, respectful environment where everyone feels heard and valued. 10. Monitor and Address Burnout I was blind to burnout until it hit me—and my team. Now, I watch for early signs of burnout, like decreased productivity or changes in behavior, and take action immediately. It’s not just about saving performance—it’s about saving people. I started as a terrible manager, but I’ve learned that leadership is about more than getting the job done—it's about empowering people to thrive. Your team isn’t looking for a perfect leader; they’re looking for someone who cares enough to lead with intention, empathy, and presence. シ ♻️ Be kind. Smash that repost button. 💬 Which (1-10) resonates the most for you? P.S. DROP A COMMENT & TAG YOUR FAVORITE BOSS!
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Stop fearing difficult conversations. Master them them with these 21 phrases: I used to run from conflict. Even with the best intentions, I’d freeze, shut down, or over-explain. Avoidance? It cost me trust. Clarity. Connection. I eventually learned: Silence doesn’t protect relationships — presence does. If you want to lead with heart, you have to show up— especially when it’s uncomfortable. 221 ways Emotionally Intelligent leaders handle tough conversations with grace: 1) Ground Yourself ↳ "Let me take a breath before we dive in" ↳ Regulating yourself regulates the room 2) Speak from the 'I' ↳ "I feel..." not "You always..." ↳ Language shapes energy 3) Ask, Don’t Assume ↳ "What’s most important to you here?" ↳ Curiosity over judgment 4) Honor the Human ↳ "I care about you—this matters" ↳ Connection before correction 5) Stay With Discomfort ↳ "This feels hard—and that’s okay" ↳ Growth often feels messy 6) Reflect Instead of React ↳ "Can I take a moment before I respond?" ↳ Response > Reaction 7) Use Silence Strategically ↳ Pause. Let things land. ↳ Space invites truth 8) Call Out Courage ↳ "Thanks for being honest with me" ↳ Vulnerability deserves recognition 9) Keep the Bigger Picture in View ↳ "Let’s remember why we’re here" ↳ Shared purpose realigns 10) Zoom In ↳ "What exactly are we solving?" ↳ Specifics defuse drama 11) Offer Reassurance ↳ "We’ll figure this out together" ↳ Confidence is contagious 12) De-escalate with Empathy ↳ "That makes sense—you’re not alone" ↳ Validation cools the fire 13) Ask for Feedback ↳ "How could I have handled this better?" ↳ Openness invites openness 14) Check for Emotion ↳ "How are you feeling right now?" ↳ Feelings often speak louder than facts 15) Break it Into Steps ↳ "Let’s take this one piece at a time" ↳ Simplicity calms chaos 16) Share What You’re Learning ↳ "This is teaching me a lot" ↳ Humility connects 17) Own the Outcome ↳ "Here’s what I commit to doing" ↳ Integrity builds trust 18) Repeat What Matters ↳ "Just to be clear, you’re saying…" ↳ Listening is leadership 19) Choose the Right Time ↳ "Is now a good time for this talk?" ↳ Timing shapes tone 20) Close With Care ↳ "I appreciate you talking this through" ↳ Endings leave lasting impressions 21) Keep the Door Open ↳ "Let’s keep this dialogue going" ↳ Safety means being available Hard conversations aren’t supposed to be easy. They’re designed to transform us. Approach them with presence (not force). ♻️ Please repost to promote presence over avoidance. 🙂 Follow Marco Franzoni for more.
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Empathy isn't just being nice. It's your strongest competitive edge. Let others chase technical skills. The real advantage lies in human understanding ✨ 12 power plays that transform everything: 1) You spot burnout before breakdown ↳ Notice if someone's camera stays off ↳ Check in privately: "How are you really?" 2) You sense resistance before rebellion ↳ Track when questions turn into repeated clarifications ↳ Schedule a "help me understand" coffee chat. 3) You read energy shifts in meetings ↳ Note when participation drops in specific topics ↳ Take a strategic pause: "Let's reset for a moment" 4) You detect conflict before crisis ↳ Watch for changes in usual communication patterns ↳ Address tension early: "Any concerns we missed?" 5) You feel momentum dropping ↳ Monitor when "quick updates" become silence ↳ Create small wins to rebuild energy. 6) You hear the unspoken concerns ↳ Listen for what topics get constantly avoided ↳ Open space: "What else should we consider?" 7) You sense when data isn't enough ↳ Notice when logic meets emotional resistance ↳ Share relevant stories instead of more numbers 8) You know when to push or pause ↳ Watch body language shift during discussions ↳ Adjust your approach before losing the room 9) You detect disconnection early ↳ Track changes in usual engagement patterns ↳ Build bridges before gaps widen 10) You feel when trust needs repair ↳ Notice increased formality in casual channels ↳ Rebuild connection through small consistencies 11) You read between the lines ↳ Listen for patterns in casual comments ↳ Address underlying needs, not surface issues 12) You sense psychological safety ↳ Monitor who speaks vs who stays quiet ↳ Create space for every voice intentionally Success isn't just about getting work done. It's about understanding the people doing it ✨ Want more empathy-driven strategies? Join us in Thrive: Redefining High Performance. We get started 3/18 with limited spots! https://lnkd.in/eUmmUVpw -- ♻️ Repost to help your network gain their strategic edge at work 🔔 Follow Dr. Carolyn Frost for more on succeeding with empathy
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